How To Be Charming When You’re A Quiet Introvert
The four techniques
When Terry entered the room, nobody noticed him, not even me. He struggled to get a foothold in the conversation, too quiet, too nondescript to draw attention.
When someone finally made introductions, the rest of us stared as if we were in the presence of a secret celebrity. Wow. This skinny, unassuming guy set up the event.
As the conversation advanced, Terry chose his words carefully, rarely talked about himself, but gradually attracted folks into his circle until it turned into a crowd.
Just when it seemed like his mythical trance over us waned, he’d compliment someone on their use of an odd vocabulary word or their knowledge of Peruvian restaurants in Denver. We all found it amusing, even charming.
As some of the participants talked about their skills, experience, and background, he’d match them up with other folks or offer introductions, further winning charm points.
By the time the event ended, a crowd of folks encircled him like they were aides to the President of the United States.
A week later, Terry invited me into his office to chat about my knowledge of the mortgage business. As we talked, he nudged me into bragging about my wins, stoking a feeling of pride. And…
