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How To Fortify Your Confidence By Letting Go Of Arrogance
The 5 Stages
Every male clique features the arrogant guy. He’s the guy who spews advice on everything from snow removal to killer abs to sex. Yes, I know ladies can be arrogant too, but I’m using guys in this example.
We listen to him because he’s sure of himself and we crave certainty. We soon learn he gives terrible advice. We call him out on it, but in a jokingly manner. That doesn’t stop him from shoveling his nonsensical wisdom. A funny thing happens after the mystique shatters.
We ask for more of his advice. We do it for two reasons.
1. It’s information on what NOT to do.
2. It amuses us. It gives us stories to tell. “Did you hear what Tom said when I asked his advice on…”
We often use the term arrogant to describe the outward attitude, but that’s limiting. Arrogance is a state of mind. People aren’t always loud and boastful.
We can feel a sense of unwarranted superiority while having the good sense to contain it to the confines of our consciousness.
We often confuse arrogance and confidence.
The arrogant one believes he’s the shit, even when he’s not. The self-confident one knows she’s got the goods, but she also recognizes her…
